four (2013)

Once you've been tagged, you are supposed to write a note with four things per question. At the end, choose 25 people to be tagged. You have to tag the person who tagged you. If I tagged you, it's because I want to know more about you. Don't leave any blanks. :)


A) FOUR JOBS I'VE HAD IN MY LIFE
1. Outbound Educator
2. Human Resource Staff (got so bored with it!)
3. Technical Support Rep (for 4 years.. jeez!)
4. Special Educator (i duno if i still want to remain as one though)


B) FOUR JOBS I WANT IN MY LIFE
1. cruise ship tour guide
2. singer
3. ice skater in Disney on Ice :D
4. entrepreneur

C) FOUR MOVIES I WOULD WATCH OVER AND OVER AND OVER
1. sixth sense
2. meet joe black
3. coyote ugly
4. kungfu panda2

D) FOUR PLACES WHERE I HAVE LIVED
1. San Juan City, MM
2. Batangas
3. Pangasinan
4. Baguio (by myself, but for a week only, and that was a loooong time ago)

E) FOUR TV SHOWS I LOVE TO WATCH
1. Just for laughs
2. History Channel
3. Travel shows
4. HBO / Disney Channel
..although i don't really watch the television that much, so I have no specific preference for tv shows

F) FOUR THINGS I CAN'T LIVE WITHOUT (OTHER THAN THE BASICS)
1. lipbalm
2. lotion
3. macbook (with internet connection! is that counted as 2 already?) :P
4. ipod (life is boring without music)

G) FOUR WEBSITES I VISIT DAILY
1. twitter
2. facebook
3. yahoomail
4. youtube

H) FOUR OF MY FAVORITE FOODS
1. chocolates! [cadbury/toblerone/ferrero rocher]
2. pizza from sbarro
3. spicy pasta
4. sinampalukang manok


I) FOUR PLACES I WOULD RATHER BE AT RIGHT NOW
1. with papa in canada
2. palawan
3. bohol
4. baguio


J) FOUR OF MY FAVORITE PERFUMES
1. Victoria's Secret's Mandarin Orange
2. Bath and Body's Sweet Pea
3. Clinique Happy
4. Penshoppe's Boy Dates Girl


K) FOUR OF MY FAVORITE MUSICALS
1. Phantom of the Opera
2. Romeo and Juliet
3. Disney on Ice
4. Les Miserables


L) FOUR FAMOUS PEOPLE I WOULD LOVE TO MEET - DEAD OR ALIVE
1. Jesus
2. Channing Tatum (super cwush!)
3. Robert Downey, Jr. 
4. Michael Phelps


M) FOUR THINGS THAT MAKE ME HAPPY
1. the beach
2. a hug from a child
3. sunset/star gazing
4. music

do not marry before age 30

Not that I'd give this advice to my friends, but as I've read through the blog, I realized that we had the same reasons for not wanting to marry before 30 years old.  

Below are some words of wisdom I loved so much from the article:

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“Are your standards are too high?”

–as we lower our standards, we enforce this lovelessness on our children all over again.

–Whom you marry is life’s most profound decision.

In your 20s, have fun, learn and grow

–Until you really know who you are and what you want with complete confidence, do not commit your life to someone else.

–So, build a life all on your own, and don’t dump it anytime you have a new boyfriend. Good men won’t appreciate it, and bad men will just manipulate you into giving up more and more. – so TRUE!

–Finding your soul mate requires that you first commit to loving yourself enough to make choices that make you happy. 

In your 20s, learn to become independent

–At some point in your journey, you must separate yourself mentally, emotionally and spiritually from the influences around you. What does it mean to be “independent”?

– learn to see your parents as individuals and not just your parents. 

–allow yourself to establish an even closer of intimacy and friendship

In your 20s, explore life’s possibilities

–Soon, you’ll enter new long-term obligations, and those obligations will circumscribe your life forever. Now is the one time in your entire adult life that you’ll ever get to be a little selfish. Take advantage of this freedom. –EXACTLY what I'm currently doing :)

– Give yourself permission to spend a few years wandering about and figuring out what it is that interests you.

After all, your brain is still changing

–part of your brain that comes up with long-range strategy, that answers the question “Who am I and what do I want to do with my life,” actually keeps changing into your 20s and 30s.

–you are a different person now in your 20s than you will be in your 30s – and so is your boyfriend. 

–When you’re 20 and the long-term-thinking area of your brain is still evolving, you look for “Mr. Right Now.”  When you’re 30, you’re better equipped to find a  “Mr. Right” for ever.

 Why do you want to get married?

–forget about the fantasy of marriage and let’s get real.

Love is not enough

–Love is only the starting point for a successful marriage.

–you and he must agree on the direction of your [relationship] and the values by which it will run

–You must believe in each other completely and trust in each other’s good judgment

–You must figure out how your [relationship] will make money and how to spend it

–You must identify what tasks must be done and who will do what

–You must commit to [each other] for the rest of your days on Earth

Take a headhunting approach to finding Mr. Right

–Take a headhunting approach to finding your soul mate.

–Do not slack off on your search for Mr. Right. This is the most important search of your life, and I’m not exaggerating when I say that the only thing at stake is your future.

–Step One is defining your ideal candidate. Do not lower your standards, but do make sure your standards are sound. 

–sort these qualities into two columns: “Must Have” and “Nice to Have.”  Your “Must Have” column should include only those things that are truly important..

–Falling in and out of love with different people is important to helping you better understand what you don’t want in a relationship as well as what you do want. 

Don’t put him in charge of deciding your fate

–This is the one who tries to force every guy she dates onto the marriage track. She comes across as desperate.

–A man wants you to be with him because you CHOOSE to be, NOT because you NEED to be.

Don’t deploy The Ultimatum

–I don’t believe in The Ultimatum. When you’re with your soul mate, it should be so completely obvious to you both that wild horses could not keep him from running after you and making absolutely certain that you are his forever.  He will be grateful for every day that he has with you. And he will commit to spending the rest of his days caring for you and any children that you have together.

There are great men out there

–It’s nonsense, the idea that if you wait to marry, there will be no good men left. Any woman who thinks there are no good men out there simply does not know how to relate to men. 

–if you learn how to love men the way they need to be loved, you’ll never be lonely. 

First become Ms. Right

–It’s through work that you discover your passions, and that you develop a greater understanding, love and respect for yourself. Spend your 20s working really really hard finding things you’re passionate about

–And a smashing job puts you in touch with the kind of man you couldn’t access if you were a dummy. 

… and that’s when the good men will appear

–I started attracting a narrower band of men, of much higher caliber. The man-boys disappeared and I was left with successful, self-assured real men. Dating became fun.

It’s way better to be an older parent

–Younger parents still have lots of life experiences to live, and can actually end up resenting the restrictions and responsibilities placed on them by virtue of having a child. Older parents tend to be more ready to settle down and focus their attention on the enjoyment of being parents and not feeling they are ‘missing out’ on other experiences.  Their lives tend to be richer, and their experiences with each other, their children and life in general, have deeper meaning and appreciation.

The rush to marry too young is what’s leftover from a previous era

–If you obey all the rules, you’ll miss all the fun. Do not ever let anyone make you feel you are less than a fully legitimate member of society simply because you are free. So, get out there and make all your dreams come true. You too can have it all. And then, ladies, through your shining example, show the rest of society how to really live.

Source: http://english.globalrencai.com/do-not-marry-before-age-30/

wednesday thoughts

When I think about people and the differences each person has, I cannot help but wonder how Sovereign and full of wisdom God is. It may seem impossible how One can be so full of power, but we cannot cage God into our likeness. I am at a loss for words at how great and mighty God is, yet He saved a wretched like me. #WednesdayThoughts

Esther 4

I have been contemplating on Esther 4 last Sunday and was pondering (and was at the verge of tears) as to why I was given another designation that is all new to me. I know this task is easy for some but for me with little experience in handling big kids, well, this is kinda a big challenge - and then it dawned on me, "You were called for such a time as this." Still I ask, "But why, Lord? How am I going to go through all that stress that I am already foreseeing? How can I do this?" And He gives me a 2-word answer, "Trust Me." 

I know God is giving me this kind of challenge because He wants me to fully trust in Him and not on my own strength and knowledge. He is instilling in me FAITH. And I know He's caught my attention now. This new task is difficult, but God has been telling me that NOTHING is ever difficult for Him, who has created the universe I live in and everything that my eyes can see and behold. All He asks of me is to 'trust'. God is good.

i thank God for a dad like you!

I always thank God for Papa whom I can always talk to whenever I need mature advice in handling difficult situations. This week has been very stressful and frustrating to me because of all the adjustments I am going through, and as I was talking to him, telling him how I have been doing this week (and how unfair things are at work!), he tells me that life is all about sowing and reaping. He then goes on saying that God sees what I am doing and what others are/aren't doing, and that in the end, it won't really be just about money or what other people say about me because God can bless me anytime if He wants to – and that He's got a bigger plan for me.. also, that I should always TRY to look on the brighter side of the situation and the good in people as much as I can. Therefore, I shouldn't focus in my current frustrating situation, but that I should look forward to the bigger picture instead, of what God has prepared for me. He ended our conversation with, "Basta anak, relaks ka lang." 

I really love my dad and his words of wisdom! I am so grateful that I have been blessed with an earthly father like him.